Bonding Update

Li Li is adjusting much better.  Her English comprehension is really amazing, and she has about 60 words now.  She doesn’t seem to have a clear preferance between Keith or I anymore.  She deffinitely is more a part of the family and seems comfortable with us.  We rarely hear the grieving cry anymore.  She continues to test the limits we’ve set and her and Koen have a pretty normal sibling relationship already (love/hate).  Koen has said several times that he wants another sister from China and often pretend plays that he’s flying to China “to get another girl.”

Bedtime still takes much longer than we’d like and makes our condo feel tiny.  If either child wakes up in the middle of the night, we are running in to keep the other child from waking, which wakes up the first child all the more.  There’s been several nights where Li Li whimpers a little, we come in and rub her back to calm her, and then she lays there with her eyes wide open for up to an hour!  We’re afraid to leave the room because she’ll cry and wake up Koen…… We’d really like to get into a 3-bedroom house soon, and have been looking a little.

Favorite things to do:

-Take a bath with brother


-Dump out every toy and resist picking things back up

-Eat (she’s still adding chub every day)

-Ask “why?” for everything (copying brother)

-Wrestle with BaBa and Koen

-Jump on the couch with Koen

-Color and paint

-Help Mama set the table (because it helps the food come faster!)


Li Li has a cold again and is having problems with constipation.  She pretty much eats whatever we serve her, but still fights the veggies a bit.

I’m feeling much better as a Mommy, but maybe it’s only because Keith had this whole last week off.  I’m loving and enjoying my little girl more, but still don’t feel like I’m “there” with my bonding to her.  There are still times all my buttons are pushed.

On Saturday we took our extended family out for Dim Sum, which comes from Guangdong Province, where Li Li is from.  Li Li squealed with delight when the BBQ Pork Baked Buns came out.

Enjoying our Dim Sum


About kelly_e

We live in WA state and have been traveling the road of adoption since 2/07. We have a biological son who is a joy and look forward to bringing home his sister soon.
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2 Responses to Bonding Update

  1. Jolene says:

    You’ll get there Kelly! I remember being the same way with sleep. The best thing in the world I did was move a rocking chair (small glider) into Ty’s room. We have a solid bedtime routine with books, rocking, then I just lay him down. I’d say 5 out of 7 nights he doesn’t even cry, he just says, “I la loo” for I love you! Ty wouldn’t rock with me at all until about 3 weeks ago when I worked it into our routine. Just a thought! It has totally helped with bonding too. He would never let me rock him in the living room, but in his room—yes!

    Jolene (Faith group)

  2. Paige Riegel says:

    I am glad things are getting better. It just takes time, but it will happen. Completely.

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