Why?

We are home and getting resettled.  Our home was spotless when we opened the door and within minutes it was messy with all the suitcases and things we unloaded from the truck.  Within a few hours we added the cat hair from our shedding cats – and we’re back to normal!

Our condo is still listed, but since we had very few or no lookers while we were gone for 7 weeks, I am doubtful anything will happen.  I’ve been praying, but actually have a peace about staying put for a while longer if that’s what God has for us.

Li Li has adjusted very well to being home and did much better on the trip back than she did on our way to Tahoe.  That was her first major trip with us and she was confused and feeling insecure as we traveled and slept in new places.  On the way back though, she enjoyed all 3 nights of our camping, and did well at Gramma’s house too.  Being away for the summer as a family, I hope, has solidified her place in our family in her mind.

As we continue to battle our strong-willed toddler, and along with Koen (who’s been more of a stinker lately than usual), we’ve been reading Love & Logic.  I am hopeful that putting the offering choices and using enforceable thinking statements will help.  There have been several times where we’re battling something with Li Li and offer her a simple choice, and her demeanor totally changes.  Koen is a little more resistant to choosing from the two choices we offer, but then he’s 4 and this is new.  It’s definitely a training experience for us to begin to talk differently.

Li Li has been in a “Why?” phase for a long time, and it just got worse.  Originally I think she was just mimicking her brother who was in the “why” phase, and didn’t really know what she was asking, but now almost every sentence she speaks includes a “why?” and our answers don’t satisfy her.  The whys keep coming and are driving me nuts right now!

About kelly_e

We live in WA state and have been traveling the road of adoption since 2/07. We have a biological son who is a joy and look forward to bringing home his sister soon.
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3 Responses to Why?

  1. jodymccomas says:

    So glad you’re reading that book. It takes a while to retrain us, the parent in that too 😉 It’s hard work. They say that it takes a month to retrain a child for every year that they are old. So it will take about 4 months for Koen. I need to re-read that. They get smarter the older they get and I need more tools 🙂

  2. Sandy says:

    Sorry your condo is not selling. I found that whenever I had gotten used to staying put and left the house a mess…. it sold!
    Keeping all of you in our prayers. We are still battling with Sierra and bonding and behavior. Still have a lot of evals to go. Hopefully something will help!
    Blessings!

  3. Laura Kuperstein says:

    I recently read love and logic because it was recommended to us. I think that some of the ideas that it has are very good… but I think that it is very behavior based and doesn’t address heart issues of why kids misbehave. If you address only behavior you’re not helping the kids understand why they are choosing to misbehave. Two other books we are currently reading are Gospel Powered Parenting and Shepherding a Child’s Heart.

    I’ll be praying for you guys as you try and figure this disciplining and guiding of your children.

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